Talking with Confidence About What You Do

Talking With Confidence About What You Do in Work and Life

Talking with Confidence About What You Do

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It’s not easy talking with confidence about what you do, especially for creatives. There are a lot of millennial creatives (myself included) who don’t live a typical 9-5 lifestyle and that can make it both hard to explain what we do on a day-to-day and stressful to justify turning our passions into a profitable way of life.

But it doesn’t have to be like that.

Speaking about what you do in a confident, shameless way extends beyond telling others a fact about you or where your interests lie. It’s a window into your purpose and leading with this confidence not only shows people who you are, but it also helps guide yourself too.

Especially as a new blogger, this topic is something I want to start a conversation around with millennials. I’m not going to lie, it’s hard to tell people that you’re starting something new and it takes a lot of guts to talk about that new blog, or side business, or creative venture you’re pursuing. It doesn’t always come easy for me to unabashedly talk about what I’m working on because it’s not a “safety guaranteed” way of life. There are times when I have to take a deep breath and remind myself not to shy away from it. However, I think that’s all the more reason to lead off with conviction in what you do.

For me personally, this is something I’ve struggled with over the years. I remember even back in high school it was easy for me to talk about writing and how that’s what I wanted to do in life, but I hid behind that. Writing wasn’t all I was interested in, but I didn’t have the confidence to say I was also interested in acting, filmmaking, etc.

Looking back on it, there are a few reasons why I wasn’t confident enough in years past:

  1. I was never the loudest personality in the room. I’m outgoing, but always more of an observer. I really thought that there was no way people would ever see me as an actor because I wasn’t the life of the party or the ___ theater kid. However, hindsight is 20/20 and there was no way anyone was ever going to think of me as more than the girl who wants to be a screenwriter because I never had the guts to say otherwise.
  2. No one else my age was running a small business (or so it felt). So, I always felt shy talking about my Etsy shop because I felt freakishly interested in online marketing, product launches, and small business statistics with no one my age to talk about it with. Today I’d be willing to bet that there were more people my age who did have side businesses, but were also shy to talk about it. I’ve also come to realize that it didn’t matter. Who cares if I was the only one who had an Etsy shop at 18? I needed to learn to own it.
  3. The lifestyle of any creative is never really a steady one. I had that drive in me to be successful, but I always felt pressured to go with the job that would tell people I would have the most security. More than that, I felt the negative stigma that came with telling people I was interested in certain creative endeavors that also happened to be so unsteady. There would be no office for me to go into every day and no boss to report to except myself. “Another LA screenwriter, another LA actor,” and maybe some people did think those things. But it was up to me to start talking with confidence about what I want to do and talk about MYSELF with confidence and passion. That was the only way there would be a silver lining in such an unsteady environment. I cared incredibly too much what people thought of me. To this day, it’s something I actively have to surrender. At the end of the day, being confident in who you are and what you want to do says so much about yourself and that’s the only opinion that should matter, your own one.

Post-Grad Questions: Now That You’re An Adult…

I remember after I graduated college it seemed as if I was flooded with questions about what I want to do, what jobs I’ve applied for, the list goes on and on. The truth was that I was the one that put the most pressure on myself to make a good impression and that’s when the fear of talking about what I do and what I’m passionate about would creep in. As creatives, we get a lot of eye-roll from people that think we sit at home and scroll through Facebook all day, and the thing is I totally get it. I understand why people think that, when the access to pajamas, our laptop, and Rice Krispy cereal are within reach. But that’s exactly WHY  talking with confidence about what you do, about your business, and about what you’re passionate about.

There’s a stigma that bloggers can’t make a living off blogging and that new bloggers shouldn’t even enter the market because it’s so over-saturated. I completely disagree with this kind of thinking. There is always room for someone who is passionate about what they want to do and share with the world. It will be unique because you’ll make it unique with your own perspective. If you’re the kind of person that’s still not convinced though…

Here’s 3 reasons why stepping into your passions with purpose and confidence is so important:

  1. Networking. Talking with confidence about what you do is not only important when you’re around people from your industry, but also when you’re around strangers and ordinary people. It seems like it’s always a friend of a friend or that girl from the bar that happens to be the one person that will put you in connection with someone for a promotion or collaboration.
  2. Connection. Not only for networking purposes, but owning what you do and shamelessly telling people about it with that fire in your eyes creates an unforgettable connection. People remember you when you can talk about yourself and what you do with confidence. On a personal level, it’s not only more interesting when you can speak about what you do in this way but it’s a more accurate depiction of who you are as a person. Maybe you work a full-time job, but you’re SO passionate about your Etsy shop you recently started. By not telling people about that part of your story, you’re doing yourself a disservice. That’s part of who you are and you probably spend more time talking about that side hustle and that creative aspect of your life, than your office job.
  3. Put it out there in the universe. I think there’s some truth to this so-called secret to life. You know when you have someone or something on your mind that you’ve been dreaming about and suddenly it comes true or shows up in your life? I think the same goes for talking about what you love to do with that faith and conviction. When you do it enough, it’s bound to make an impact in your life and in others.

Ultimately, this fear just extends into caring what people thought of me WAY too much. The truth is that I still struggle with this today, but over the last year and a half I have come into my own confidence a lot more. Sure, there are conversations when people ask me what I do and it’s scary to lead off with that surefootedness of what I do and what I’m passionate about, but that’s first and foremost who I am. I know I can say without a doubt that I feel so much better after a conversation where I shamelessly described who I am and what I love. I know the same will be true for you when you lead off with that confident foot too. Check out my manifesto for a glimpse into how I want to lead with confidence.

Leave a comment below if this is something you feel you struggle with too, or have in the past! I’d love to hear from you!

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Talking With Confidence About What You Do in Work and Life




  • Rylie Coble July 9, 2017 at 12:01 am

    This was really encouraging to read! As a recent, starting-up blogger (@curlyrydarling), I often feel kind of embarrassed saying that I’m starting a fashion/lifestyle blog and I feel like I have to go into a full explaination about what it is exactly without making it seem silly or stupid. I feel awkward asking people to take pictures of me or taking pictures for my blog, usually talking myself out of bringing out my phone for a quick picture of my coffee or my outfit. But as a fellow creative (I’m a current art major!), I know what you’re talking about with talking about something you love and having the confidence to embrace it; art is a passion for me, and my blog account is just another thing that I’m excited to be pursuing so I shouldn’t be ashamed just because of what others think. I am a generally confident person, so this is just another thing I need to take head-on and not be afraid of embracing! Sorry that was long 😬 But your post was very wonderful to read, so thank you!! 😊

    • samantha July 9, 2017 at 11:14 am

      Rylie thank you so much for taking the time to read this! I completely understand where you’re coming from and I have the same feelings about my blog too. Sometimes I feel weird taking pictures or trying to justify it to other people, but maybe because we’re talking about this, getting it off our chests, and feeling more confidence we can proceed with a different mindset! 🙂 I’m glad fellow new bloggers feel like they’re in the same boat as me!

  • Alex Balmert July 12, 2017 at 9:00 am

    Thanks for this post! I started my business at 22 as a 7 month newlywed and one year college grad. Starting a small business (at any age) is a risk and can be difficult to explain when people ask what you’re doing now that you’re an “adult”. ‘Owning it’ and remaining confident that my dream was indeed becoming a reality helped my peers and family to take me seriously and get on board to support this dream! Glad to know I’m not alone :).

    • samantha July 12, 2017 at 5:08 pm

      I couldn’t agree more! Once I began to be more confident in what I wanted, it seems easier for people to get on-board and also to believe in you more as well! Thanks so much for reading Alex! P.s. I love that we both started our businesses so young! Shows true heart and drive 🙂

  • Wholly Fabi July 12, 2017 at 9:05 am

    This is true at any age! For many of us who are switching gears and daring to embrace multiple paths, this is an important reminder to own it instead of defaulting to the old “it’s complicated!” answer!

    • samantha July 12, 2017 at 5:07 pm

      YES, I could not agree more! Sometimes it can feel like an automatic reply to say, “well it’s kind of complicated umm…” but I’m happy we are all trying to make an effort to lean into our passions and our work with confidence! Thanks so much for reading and hope we can connect more!

  • Anna July 12, 2017 at 9:43 am

    Love this post! And totally relating right now!

    • samantha July 12, 2017 at 5:06 pm

      Thanks so much Anna! So happy you can relate to this. Most of the times it seems like as creatives we are all feeling similar things, whether we say so or not! Looking forward to connecting more!

  • Laura July 12, 2017 at 11:40 am

    YES!! My blog post from this week also touched a bit on this! So many great things to remember from this! So many times we do want to run to the things with more security and yet we then miss out on those things we are so deeply passionate about! Thank you so much for sharing!

    • samantha July 12, 2017 at 5:05 pm

      Hi Laura! I’ll have to go check out your blog post, I love hearing what other people have to say about this! But you’re so right and I’m glad we are choosing to turn to our passions rather than security! 🙂

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