Ego is the Great Killer of Creativity: Comparison Kills

Ego is the Great Killer of Creativity: Comparison Kills

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Comparison kills. This is a message has been popping up a lot lately in my life and I’ve been having great conversations about this. It’s so easy to compare ourselves, our career, our relationships, our successes, and our life to those we see on social media. But the more we compare and dwell on what we don’t have or aren’t accomplishing in this moment, the less we’re dedicating our time and energy on creating, on being inspired, and on allowing opportunities into our own lives.

Whatever industry you’re in, I know we’ve all gone through that similar feeling: you hop onto Instagram, scroll through Insta stories, and there it is. Someone talking about the new project they just secured, the new role they booked, the new country they’re traveling to next week, or  all the amazing things that are happening to them because they worked so hard for it and it’s finally paying off. And that’s great! That’s awesome (truly) but then we start to get down on ourselves because, hey, we’re working really hard too, right? And we can’t help but think, “But why not me?

It’s SO hard not to compare and start feeling like we’re not good enough when we’re working day in and day out towards our dreams. But the fact is that we are all on our own journey and on our own path. No two people got to the same destination by taking the same path.  I’m a firm believer that hard work and luck go hand in hand. And maybe that luck is created by someone greater than us, but if we work really really hard and have that laser focus about what we want out of this life, what we want to accomplish, and the legacy we want to leave people with, I know that “luck” will be delivered to us. Sometimes people just get that earlier than we do and that’s okay. Because if we don’t give up, we’re going to get there too. One day you’re going to meet that right person at the right moment or have that job offer just land in your lap when you need it most or get that part you could feel was made for you.

As my acting teacher says: Ego is the great killer of creativity. What’s yours in yours and what’s mine is mine. I love that because it means we can genuinely celebrate other people’s journey and successes, knowing that we’re exactly where we’re meant to be.

  • Tony Marquez February 28, 2018 at 12:48 pm

    Hi Sam!

    I really do enjoy reading your posts! Your words come off super sincere and genuine and I like being able to relate to you and your writing. I find it awesome how you’re able to share your thoughts and little insecurities publicly and find you very strong, secure and interesting being able to do so.Social Media can become a numbers game especially now that there are actual business features where you are dependent on the number of followers, likes, etc. I know I’ve gotten jealous and frustrated in the past looking at other people’s success and even felt guilty sometimes of putting my hard work out there and coming off boastful.

    However, I still find social media can also be a great tool to build with one another if people allow it instead of comparing. One of my intentions of mine this year (I actually did your journal prompts – so thank you for that) was to start sharing more of my friends posts online. As young independent artists, I figured the best and easiest way to support each other is to simply view, share and talk about each others work. That being said, I can start sharing your blog too if you don’t mind as I do enjoy reading!

    Talk soon, Sam! Hope to start a great creative relationship with you soon!

    • samantha March 4, 2018 at 9:24 pm

      Hey Tony! Thanks so much for reading my blogs and I so appreciate you sharing my blog! I love that that’s one of your intentions and I really believe in sharing and supporting other artists too!

  • Klodo March 6, 2018 at 2:36 pm

    My favourite are Ali&Eliza Heung.Eliza heung has the most prettiest eyes and her face is way too perfect.Ali is very charismatic.Both can portray acting really well.Tracy chu is a brainy beauty too and looking forward to Kelly ng acting as her beauty is unique too.I also dont agree with the listing on samantha ko as most users as samantha ko is way too simple looking and her face is ordinary like typical china gals

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