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Setting Clear Intentions for 2018: New Year’s Resolutions (Only Better)
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Setting Clear Intentions for 2018: New Year’s Resolutions (Only Better)

If you didn’t catch yesterday’s blog post, Finding Clarity: Questions for the New Year, I mentioned that I’m doing an email series with my subscribers called Cultivating Your Best Year. Day 3 (the final day) was all about setting clear intentions for 2018. As day 3 came and went I realized…wow that was a lot of journaling! And that’s coming from someone who really enjoys it. I’ve said it again and I’ll say it before though…journaling really does provide so much clarity, new ideas you didn’t know were in the back of your head, and a perspective you didn’t know you had. I really enjoyed doing this email series and got some sweet messages and comments. Thank you to everyone that felt a sense of purpose through this and I’m glad we can go into 2018 with a little more clarity and a lot more creative inspiration! P.S. if you don’t want to miss out next time, click here and scroll to the bottom where it says “Let’s Connect” and sign up for my newsletter!

Ever since I was young I would make new years resolutions. I’m an avid list maker and always have been and when I was younger they were always those vague, cliché resolutions: workout more, read more, keep my room cleaner, etc. But as each year passes I’ve learned a lot more about resolutions, goals, and intentions and the difference between then all. Here’s why I think intentions are the foundation we need to start with.

Here’s something I said in my email newsletter:

Goals vs. Intentions

For me, I think the difference between goals and intentions is that goals imply a specific outcome. While specificity is great, I think intentions are more about the journey and making longterm changes that will lead to your goals & dreams. Don’t get me wrong, I love setting goals for myself. However, I think I can agree that there’s a negative connotation that comes with not meeting that goal. Intentions comes from a place of presence, and that’s pretty powerful. A great example I’ve read about goals vs. intentions has to do with weight loss. For example, let’s say you give yourself the goal of losing 20 pounds by the end of the year. But if you set out to do that without the intentions of really trying to live a healthy lifestyle and have that awareness to make those changes within your diet and exercise, you could be setting yourself up for a year of stress or not meeting that goal. And if you do meet it, where do you go from there?

A truly GREAT thing I read about goals and intentions said this: “Declare your intentions first, then build your goals on top of them.” That makes so much sense, right? Healthy lifestyle = intentions, losing 20 pounds = specific goal that builds from that intention.

Setting intentions allows you to live your values and attract the life you want. It’s common for many Entrepreneurs to set intentions because it’s truly a powerful tool!

Questions for Clarity:

Here are just a couple questions I asked my subscribers to journal, and a glimpse into my answers!

In order to see your dreams come to life, what parts of your life need to shift this year? What habits do you want to start or remove? What fears do you want to overcome? 

One of my words this year is Action. I moved closer in the direction of my dreams and goals but I want to attract them even more. I was productive, but not as productive as I could have been. I set some systems in place, like powerblocking my days, but I fell off the wagon a bit. This year I want to shift my day-to-day to taking more meaningful action. No scrolling on the internet or doing tasks for my blog when I know I sat down to work on my screenplay. Purposeful action. I know that I’m most productive and my brain is buzzing with ideas most in the morning. Things that could shift are my sleeping schedule and going to bed earlier to put everything else into place. Sometimes I look at my to-do list of everything I need to do to break into the industry for acting/screenwriting and it’s overwhelming. This year what I want to shift is not feeling like it’s a sprint but a marathon. All I can do is focus on one thing at a time and then move down the list.

I’d also like to shift my reaction to things more to a place of pausing, listening, taking it all in before reaction. I can be opinionated with those close to me and would like to see one of my core values of inner harmony come to fruition more this year.

Choose a word or a few words to be the anchors for 2018.

I divided mine into two words: Action + Inspire. Action to anchor my personal dreams and to take actionable steps towards that & Inspire to be a mantra for me in this world of blogging and writing. Both words are so purposeful to me right now in my life. In the blogging world, it can be hard to find your identity or figure out how to take your authenticity and make that your brand. Choosing inspire as my word is also my anchor for everything my blog stands for and helps keep me on track when I’m thinking of content ideas or what to say to my audience!

What are your creative or life’s work intentions for 2018? List a goal for each intention (I asked this slightly differently in my email but condensing it for this post)

  • To be more vulnerable on my blog/social media this year. A goal that stems from this is to incorporate video into my content more
  • To take more actionable steps towards what I want to accomplish instead of putting things off. A goal that stems from this intention is to acquire a theatrical agent as well as a commercial agent
  • To make my screenwriting part of my day-to-day routine, no excuses. A goal that stems from this is to have a completed and much better rewrite draft by this year.

What are some of your intentions for 2018? I’d love to know! Comment below and tell me and feel free to journal your own answers to the questions above!

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Finding Clarity Within Myself: Questions for the New Year

#Realtalk: Finding Clarity Within Myself

If you didn’t catch yesterday’s blog post Reflecting on 2017, I mentioned that I’m doing an email series with my subscribers called Cultivating Your Best Year. Day 2 was all about getting real with ourselves. This morning I took some time to journal all 13 questions prompted in the email! I know, that’s a lot right? But it truly helped and I loved getting clear on things that seemed to have slipped to the back of my mind. P.S. if you don’t want to miss out next time, click here and scroll to the bottom where it says “Let’s Connect” and sign up for my newsletter!

I don’t think we can truly cultivate a life we love without getting 100% real with ourselves and asking the tough questions (or honestly, even the silly questions that we haven’t asked ourselves since we were kids)

Creating the life of our dreams means asking empowering questions, means moving in a direction where we feel our best selves, and knowing firmly what we really want. They say we grow where we are planted, but in order to grow you must know what it is that you need. What we need is always changing but I think to cultivate our best year yet, we have to get really clear on things! Some of the questions I asked were meant to help us discover ourselves a little deeper & find clarity about our dreams and goals so we can pursue our intentions (that we’ll set tomorrow) with clarity and authenticity.

Here are just a couple of the questions I asked, feel free to journal these too!

What do you feel, at your core, that you absolutely cannot live without doing? What do you feel you’re meant to do in this life?

Storytelling & moving people to feel deeply. This is the foundation of everything I’m passionate about in this life (acting and screenwriting, or writing in general, which are both forms of storytelling) and I know that’s what I was meant to do and would not want to live without doing. Storytelling and moving people to feel deeply about something also coincides with connecting with people on a deeper level. I think that’s why I love it, too. There’s a reason I love deep conversations!

What would you do if everyone believed in you?

My answer to this question in my journal was longer than I expected. I wrote about a lot, but something that emerged I thought was interesting (which happens a lot when we journal; things come out from us that we didn’t know where thoughts) was that I would show up more for my blog in person (IG stories, live video, Youtube videos, etc.) I think I hold back in this area because it’s a lot scarier than posting a picture! A lot more vulnerable and I know I wonder if people will tune in, or furthermore if they even care? But I felt such a reassurance, or maybe even a voice that was saying not to care what people think, to try this!

What are your most treasured values? How can you live your life more aligned to these values?

This prompt was a great reminder! I loved this one. I skimmed a few lists of values on the internet, like this one, and made a list of the ones that stood out to me:

  • Authenticity
  • Adventure
  • Balance
  • Compassion
  • Creativity / imagination
  • Community
  • Faith
  • Legacy
  • Determination
  • Loyalty
  • Growth / Learning
  • Friendship
  • Inner harmony
  • Love
  • Honesty
  • Meaningful work
  • Optimism
  • Peace
  • Curiosity
  • Trustworthiness
  • Openness
  • Passion
  • Happiness

Okay sooo, that’s a long list! And while all of those traits are valuable to me, I know I needed to narrow it down. “If everything is a core value, than nothing is a priority.” I wanted to get really clear about my most important things so that I can set clear intentions about my day-to-day life in the coming years. Here’s what I narrowed it down to:

  • Adventure: Because life is fun! I don’t want to make excuses as to why I can’t travel somewhere or do something I want to. It’s fun to go out of the norm and experience new things!
  • Empathy: For me, it’s important to come from a place of trying to understand how other people feel. Having empathy can be both a blessing and a curse, especially when you feel bad about serving yourself when you know something doesn’t feel right at the cost of hurting someone else’s feelings. But I know this is an important value to me because I can’t stand when people are rude or mean to others, it shows me they have no empathy for others and there’s no room for that in my life.
  • Creativity / Imagination: Probably obvious here! “Made to Create” you know?
  • Faith: I couldn’t get through life without this. It’s what keeps me going when the path gets a little muddy or I question myself.
  • Growth / Learning: I always loved school and love soaking up new information. Podcasts and as always reading are my favorite way of learning right now.
  • Inner harmony: Because I’ve struggled with anxiety a lot in the past and probably will continue to. This inner harmony and peace is essential for me.
  • Passion: Because if you have passion you have meaningful work and vice versa. Having passion for what I’m doing means I’m on the right path towards fulfilling my soul’s purpose
  • Trustworthiness: I really try to be that trustworthy friend and I hope I will continue to.

*I wanted to include love and happiness in here, but to me those felt like the essential human needs that everyone wants and I feel like love and happiness are the foundation of many of the core values above. Just my thoughts!*

What I learned from Day 2 journal prompts:

What I learned overall from all 13 questions asked on day 2 was that in order to attract the kind of dream life we want, we have to radiate it and become it before it is drawn to us. Getting clear on my dreams, my values, and what was missing allowed me to really get down to the nitty gritty about what I want to incorporate in my life. I feel that when we are that specific, it’s easier to attract jobs we love and repel the ones that suck the life out of us and the same goes for friendships and relationships!

If you want to see me get candid about these topics, head on over to my Instagram where I’m probably sharing more thoughts with you guys on the new year!

What are some of your core values? Comment below!



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Reflecting on 2017

The older we get, the faster time flies by. Often times I think we forget what life lessons we’ve truly learned or how much we’ve grown as a person. Reflecting on the good and the bad allows us to get real with what we want out of life.

2017 felt like a stepping stone year for me. I suppose every year is a stepping stone, but it didn’t feel particularly wonderful or exceptionally awful. That’s not to say that I’m not grateful for this life and the fact that I’m alive and healthy because let me tell you I AM! A lot of amazing things did happen this year and I’m proud to celebrate that too.

2017 was a year that I spent a lot of time questioning things. I spent a lot of time worrying and asking what-ifs. While that probably won’t go away completely, I’ve come to more peaceful terms with a lot of things that happened this past year.

In my Cultivating Your Best Year email series I’m doing with my subscribers, we reflected on 2017 yesterday with a few journal prompts geared toward reflecting on our accomplishments, positive things we want to cultivate again this year, things, people, or energy we want to get rid of for 2018, what we learned about ourselves, and so much more. Every day we’ll take some time out of our day to write down answers to these questions and I did my journaling this morning!

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My 2017: Personal Growth & Reflections

I did write longer more personal answers down in my journal, but here are some takeaways from my year and reflections I had.

  • This past year I got to know myself a lot more. I got to know my strengths and weaknesses more than I ever have and I came into my strength and self-awareness. I stood my ground for energy that no longer had a place in my life and said “no” more to things I dreaded instead of trying to please people.
  • This past year I put effort and energy into people that didn’t reciprocate that, that simply didn’t care as much as I did. It took months and months to come to terms with that, but I know that in 2018 I can’t let suck energy out of me. I want to cultivate friendships and partnerships with people who meet me on the same level and put thought, energy, and nurturing time into me just as much as I put into them.
  • In 2017 I showed up for my dreams, but at times not as much as I could have. Can we all give 100% every single day? It’s a nice thought but I think we all have days where we just need time. Time to give ourselves a little rest and self-care, and that’s okay! But I think I could’ve been a little more aggressive in being productive, in not making excuses, and going after it. If you haven’t read it yet, check out one of my top blog posts: Showing Up for Your Dreams
  • Something I learned this past year was that we CANNOT predict how our life will go. That’s obvious I guess. But this year it was really cemented for me. There are some things in my life today that one year ago looked completely different. The bottom line is that I can worry all I want, but there’s a greater plan here. Trust that.

My Happiest Moments and Achievements

2017 also brought some really happy times and crazy accomplishments for me:

  • I wrote 2 short films: one that you can view here and one that’s in pre-production!
  • I went on my first cruise
  • I filmed a commercial with Hyundai that was so much fun!
  • I started this blog! It’s something I wanted to do for a while was so happy to finally just start
  • I might live in LA, but there’s a lot of things I still haven’t done in my own city! I finally went to the summer movie series at the Hollywood Bowl and it was a blast! We saw Raiders of the Lost Ark
  • I attended BeautyCon for the first time! Read my blog post about authenticity at BeautyCon
  • I traveled to Asheville, NC for the first time with my Mom and Uncle
  • My family took a trip to Oahu and we stayed in the cutest town of Lanikai. We felt like locals for the whole week. I had been there a few times before and was so happy to show them my favorite spots! I learned a lot about being present on this trip, so check that post out!
  • I learned a lot more about social media and digital marketing. (I’m that person that loves books on business too, the nerd side of me comes out)
  • I participated in a Mastermind with some amazing bloggers and one of my favorite PR Influencers!

All in all, Reflecting on 2017 allowed me to see where I flourished, and where I could have done more. 2017 prepared me for the year ahead, as I suspect each year will do.  I had some amazing times with friends and family that I never want to forget and I’m glad I took time to journal about it all.

What did you reflect on and learn about yourself in 2017? Scroll to the bottom and drop me a comment to tell me!

Also, be sure to check back on the blog in the next few days to read blog posts about the other 2 days of my email series! We’ll also ask ourselves some tough questions as well as set clear intentions for the year ahead!

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