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Finding Clarity Within Myself: Questions for the New Year

#Realtalk: Finding Clarity Within Myself

If you didn’t catch yesterday’s blog post Reflecting on 2017, I mentioned that I’m doing an email series with my subscribers called Cultivating Your Best Year. Day 2 was all about getting real with ourselves. This morning I took some time to journal all 13 questions prompted in the email! I know, that’s a lot right? But it truly helped and I loved getting clear on things that seemed to have slipped to the back of my mind. P.S. if you don’t want to miss out next time, click here and scroll to the bottom where it says “Let’s Connect” and sign up for my newsletter!

I don’t think we can truly cultivate a life we love without getting 100% real with ourselves and asking the tough questions (or honestly, even the silly questions that we haven’t asked ourselves since we were kids)

Creating the life of our dreams means asking empowering questions, means moving in a direction where we feel our best selves, and knowing firmly what we really want. They say we grow where we are planted, but in order to grow you must know what it is that you need. What we need is always changing but I think to cultivate our best year yet, we have to get really clear on things! Some of the questions I asked were meant to help us discover ourselves a little deeper & find clarity about our dreams and goals so we can pursue our intentions (that we’ll set tomorrow) with clarity and authenticity.

Here are just a couple of the questions I asked, feel free to journal these too!

What do you feel, at your core, that you absolutely cannot live without doing? What do you feel you’re meant to do in this life?

Storytelling & moving people to feel deeply. This is the foundation of everything I’m passionate about in this life (acting and screenwriting, or writing in general, which are both forms of storytelling) and I know that’s what I was meant to do and would not want to live without doing. Storytelling and moving people to feel deeply about something also coincides with connecting with people on a deeper level. I think that’s why I love it, too. There’s a reason I love deep conversations!

What would you do if everyone believed in you?

My answer to this question in my journal was longer than I expected. I wrote about a lot, but something that emerged I thought was interesting (which happens a lot when we journal; things come out from us that we didn’t know where thoughts) was that I would show up more for my blog in person (IG stories, live video, Youtube videos, etc.) I think I hold back in this area because it’s a lot scarier than posting a picture! A lot more vulnerable and I know I wonder if people will tune in, or furthermore if they even care? But I felt such a reassurance, or maybe even a voice that was saying not to care what people think, to try this!

What are your most treasured values? How can you live your life more aligned to these values?

This prompt was a great reminder! I loved this one. I skimmed a few lists of values on the internet, like this one, and made a list of the ones that stood out to me:

  • Authenticity
  • Adventure
  • Balance
  • Compassion
  • Creativity / imagination
  • Community
  • Faith
  • Legacy
  • Determination
  • Loyalty
  • Growth / Learning
  • Friendship
  • Inner harmony
  • Love
  • Honesty
  • Meaningful work
  • Optimism
  • Peace
  • Curiosity
  • Trustworthiness
  • Openness
  • Passion
  • Happiness

Okay sooo, that’s a long list! And while all of those traits are valuable to me, I know I needed to narrow it down. “If everything is a core value, than nothing is a priority.” I wanted to get really clear about my most important things so that I can set clear intentions about my day-to-day life in the coming years. Here’s what I narrowed it down to:

  • Adventure: Because life is fun! I don’t want to make excuses as to why I can’t travel somewhere or do something I want to. It’s fun to go out of the norm and experience new things!
  • Empathy: For me, it’s important to come from a place of trying to understand how other people feel. Having empathy can be both a blessing and a curse, especially when you feel bad about serving yourself when you know something doesn’t feel right at the cost of hurting someone else’s feelings. But I know this is an important value to me because I can’t stand when people are rude or mean to others, it shows me they have no empathy for others and there’s no room for that in my life.
  • Creativity / Imagination: Probably obvious here! “Made to Create” you know?
  • Faith: I couldn’t get through life without this. It’s what keeps me going when the path gets a little muddy or I question myself.
  • Growth / Learning: I always loved school and love soaking up new information. Podcasts and as always reading are my favorite way of learning right now.
  • Inner harmony: Because I’ve struggled with anxiety a lot in the past and probably will continue to. This inner harmony and peace is essential for me.
  • Passion: Because if you have passion you have meaningful work and vice versa. Having passion for what I’m doing means I’m on the right path towards fulfilling my soul’s purpose
  • Trustworthiness: I really try to be that trustworthy friend and I hope I will continue to.

*I wanted to include love and happiness in here, but to me those felt like the essential human needs that everyone wants and I feel like love and happiness are the foundation of many of the core values above. Just my thoughts!*

What I learned from Day 2 journal prompts:

What I learned overall from all 13 questions asked on day 2 was that in order to attract the kind of dream life we want, we have to radiate it and become it before it is drawn to us. Getting clear on my dreams, my values, and what was missing allowed me to really get down to the nitty gritty about what I want to incorporate in my life. I feel that when we are that specific, it’s easier to attract jobs we love and repel the ones that suck the life out of us and the same goes for friendships and relationships!

If you want to see me get candid about these topics, head on over to my Instagram where I’m probably sharing more thoughts with you guys on the new year!

What are some of your core values? Comment below!



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Reflecting on Christmas + My Wish for the New Year

I took a needed rest from writing blog posts and didn’t stress about posting on social media. It’s nice to take time to relax the mind and not be so busy. Christmas is by far my all-time favorite holiday. As soon as Thanksgiving is over I’m in full on Christmas mode and it genuinely makes me so happy. My spirits are 100% up!

It’s also that time of year that I watch The Family Stone 1 billion times. My favorite movie, with an all-start cast that will make you laugh ‘til you cry and pull at your heartstrings. Go watch it immediately if you haven’t yet and it will be your new favorite film!

This Christmas my family took it slow and it felt so nice to spend time together without running around. My Uncle Mark from South Carolina usually comes out so I was bummed he couldn’t make it this year, but he was with us in spirit! Our Christmas tree looked a little different this year, due to the craziness of the fires we never got around to decorating it like we normally would. But I actually love how simple it was this year! Then, my Dad unfortunately crashed on his mountain bike recently and hurt his back. We didn’t do much on Christmas Eve or Christmas except go out to dinner and again, it was so great to take it slow. We had a wonderful Christmas at home enjoying each other’s company and watching Hallmark movies.

Some of our Christmas Traditions:

  • Baking German Butter Cake (this recipe has been passed down for many generations on my grandfather’s side. It’s unique in it’s almond flavor but similar to a coffee cake, though better if you ask me) We usually make a few batches throughout December
  • Cinnamon Rolls for Christmas Eve morning
  • Church and Christmas Eve dinner at a local Italian Restaurant. We’ve been doing this for years and it feels like home when we finally sit down to eat
  • This has become sort of a funny “tradition,” if that: my Dad buys everyone stocking stuffers from rite-aid without fail every year haha. We started making fun of him, teasing that that’s the only place he gets stocking stuffers from and now it’s a thing!
  • Taking a photo of all of us on Christmas day which is usually the last photo of the year before I get pictures printed out to put in our family album. I’ve talked about this before on the blog, but it’s so important to me to preserve memories because when we’re older do you actually think we’re going to go back on “the cloud” (Which may or may not exist) and look at pictures when we were 20? I highly doubt it and everything will be lost. SO this is my way of making sure that doesn’t happen haha.

My Wish for the New Year

While there are always crazy drivers and people that resemble the Grinch around Christmas, for the most part everyone is in good spirits. I love that. I love that for the whole month of December, everyone is generally really happy and excited about giving to their friends and family. Excited to soak up that special time with loved ones. Full-hearted as they drive around looking at Christmas lights feeling so full of life.

My wish is that the Christmas spirit will be carried with us throughout the year. And the only way that’s going to happen is if we are present with ourselves and mindful about keeping the peace within ourselves and giving that to others. Not dwelling on the negative, but focusing on the positive and sending that positivity into the world.

How can you carry that Christmas spirit with you this year? Comment below and tell me one way!


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