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Sam Chat: What Hawaii Taught Me About Being Present
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Sam Chat: What Hawaii Taught Me About Being Present (Beyond Putting Your Cell Phone Down)

You know that feeling when you’ve been traveling all day and you finally get to where you’re going? When you finally see that beautiful water and put your feet in the sand that feels like butter and then…everyone takes out their phone. I’m 100% guilty of it too. This past trip I went on with my family though, I took a step back and realized just what Hawaii taught me about being present. But this isn’t just your typical post about turning your phone off. There were a  lot of takeaways about being present that I didn’t think about before.

#picoritdidnthappen

Being away from the stresses of daily life, it was a little bit easier to breathe it all in. It was nice to pause and not have to worry about anything really. It also made it easier to step back and think about things. We are so used to taking out our phones and documenting every second in our day to day lives. This was no exception, especially in a gorgeous place like Hawaii. The thing is, I don’t think most of us in the millennial generation are taking photos necessarily for the memories. Sure, it’s nice to have them and show a few friends. But for the most part, we take photos because we’re thinking ahead about what we want to post on social media. That’s kind of sad. We take a beautiful hike where the view is just breathtaking, but we don’t stop to think about the moment. Or the history behind the environment. Or how we’ll never be in this same place with family again. All we do is scramble to take a few boomerangs, and then re-take some photos with a different pose, and then we leave. #picoritdidnthappen is the double-edged sword millennials have with wanting to show the world what we’re up to and yet when we’re always thinking ahead, we’re NEVER in the present.

Millennials and Being Present

Something that made me realize this pattern us millennials have is in part thanks to my parents. They aren’t thinking ahead about what photo to post on social media. (Mom if you’re reading this, super proud of you learning Instagram though). They take pictures because they really want to look back and remember and cherish everything. That’s kind of the ultimate goal, right?

As I would do my morning pages every day, I was writing about trying to be more present and then I would write down everything that was worrying me, or looming above my head, or stressing me out. I thought, well this is good because I write it all down and let it all go. And then it hit me. Again…worrying about the future isn’t really being present! Worrying about things I can’t control won’t do me any good. And so being present extends so much farther than putting your phone down and smiling at the beautiful view in front of you. It’s also about learning that the NOW, the present day or moment, is the only one that matters.

Being Present in the “Now”

We hear about needing to be “present” all the time, but it’s actually a hard concept. Can you sit there for 1 minute and think about nothing but the present moment? It’s almost impossible. Our minds venture to something in the past or present. But I started to think that if we can focus on being present just a tiny bit more, we might have a happier and more peaceful state of mind, and furthermore, we can show our spark to the world when we’re in those present and open moments. More than anything, I was reminded that it’s important to be present in life so that you can be real with yourself and your dreams. Tune into your most authentic self and share your spark with the world! Go after what you really want and don’t be afraid to share your most natural, REAL, uninhibited, un-retouched, beautiful spark of self to the world!

What are a few ways you can practice being present in your daily routine? I know for me that’s taking time in the morning for me, to write and just simply be without my phone which I love doing. It’s freeing. And to also stop worrying about the future, it ain’t up to me! Scroll to the bottom to comment below!

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Knowing Your Self-Worth and When to Walk Away
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Sam Chat: Knowing Your Self-Worth and When to Walk Away

After feeling the pressure to get a job right after I graduated college, I learned an unexpected but important lesson in the “real world”: know your self-worth and stand firmly by it.

A Short-Lived Rest Period

I’ve always been a busy-bee. I’m the kind of person that goes a little stir crazy when I don’t have something to work on after a while. Right after I graduated I didn’t worry about too much. I wasn’t sending my resume out to anyone just yet, I wasn’t stressing over post-grad life, and I stumbled across Kathryn Schwarzenegger’s book “I Just Graduated … Now What?: Honest Answers from Those Who Have Been There.” It was a nice reminder that other college graduates are taking that time period to explore what path is right for them. And another reminder that, “Hellooo no one else has it figured out at 22. So, relax Sam.”

That lasted about one week. I knew I wanted to pursue acting and screenwriting, and even the idea of starting this blog was in the back of my mind, but I suddenly felt the pressure of needing to get a job ASAP. The more people asked, “So, what are your plans now?” or “So, what do you plan to do with your degree?” I felt it piling on.  I felt like if I wasn’t doing something, I was just wasting my time.

Job Hunting

So, I quickly jumped onto the computer and started submitting my resume to everything I was remotely interested in. Any kind of writing job you could think of, I applied to it. Eventually, I landed a writing job that was mainly remote with an in-person check-in once a week or every other week. I thought that sounded great! It was a nice part-time job to start with that would still allow me to pursue my other creative endeavors.

One of my first assignments was to do product descriptions. Simple enough, right? They wanted you to make each one similar yet different, not too long yet not too short, and don’t use the same three words in a row so there would no confusion with plagiarism. Needless to say, I was calling my advisor saying that the amount of product descriptions they wanted me to do by the end of the week (we’re talking in the hundreds) it seemed nearly impossible. This was far from the part-time work-from-home job I was described upon getting hired. It took up enough time to be a full-time job. They told me I was doing it wrong and spending too much time on each description. After a few pointers and tricks of the trade I felt like maybe I had a handle on this.

Cut to a few months later: I was drowning. By this time, I was not only getting calls at abnormal working hours to do something that wasn’t related to the job I was hired to do, like Photoshopping photos, I was running multiple social media accounts, and still doing writing assignments. Well…it all came tumbling down with one writing assignment. When I was told to go in and take over for another writer and do descriptions exactly how she did them, I did as I was told. 700 product descriptions later, the company says the descriptions for each product are too short and it’s my job (and on my dime) to go back and fix it. Even though they are just as long as the first writer’s descriptions, they don’t care. When I say that I don’t have time to do that by the deadline and it was their fault for not clarifying the first writer did them wrong, they tell me I have to complete the job or I won’t get paid for any of it.

Manipulation At Its Finest

Did I mention the writers here get paid by the hour? And by the hour I mean by how long THEY think it should take for you to finish a project? Yes, something that wasn’t told to me during the beginning of starting this job. When I tried to communicate the frustration, they basically told me in so many words that I was dispensable as a writer. I wasn’t going to get paid if I didn’t do as they say, and would only get paid probably half of the hours that it took me to actually complete the job.  At this point, it felt like manipulation at its finest.

Recognizing My Self-Worth

That’s when I knew. I am worth more than this. I knew that my skills were an asset, whether that company realized it or not. And I knew that on some level, I was being bullied into getting paid way less than what I deserved to get. Any company, person, or project that doesn’t see what you bring to the table and who more or less thinks of you as dispensable, is not worth your time or energy. Know your self-worth and stand firmly by it. 

The Inner Fear Voice

Sometimes walking away can make you feel like you accomplished nothing; I know I felt that way. But what you accomplished on one path is not a measure of your self-worth. Walking away doesn’t make you a failure, it makes you stronger for recognizing your own personal value. And in a different light, you might actually have accomplished a better sense of self-worth in the process. Quiet that inner voice that tells you you’re a failure if you walk away. That inner voice is just fear talking.

Don’t Settle for Quantity over Quality

I knew in the end that it wasn’t worth drowning in a job I hated and who didn’t value me just because I allowed myself to feel pressure to get a job. In turn, I didn’t want to work for a company who took on a quantity over quality attitude and didn’t create a supportive and encouraging work environment. Any single person or company who is manipulative like that doesn’t deserve to be in your life, work-wise or personal. Always remember that you are unique in your own way and if you work hard, you are not dispensable.

Have you ever gone through something similar? Let me know in a comment below by scrolling to the bottom!

 

 

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Sam Chat: The Story Behind Constant Creative & How I Started Blogging
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Sam Chat: The Story Behind Constant Creative

Many of you have asked..…just kidding. No one has asked because this blog is brand spankin’ new, but! I figured that some of you might be curious why I chose the name Constant Creative for my blog and wanted to give a little backstory on how I started blogging.

Trial and Error

This blog was a long time coming and something I wanted to do for a while. I started a different blog years ago that was linked to my Etsy shop (this embarrassing blog shall not be named), but it was all over the place and completely unorganized. Most days I would post pictures of the cards I made and occasionally there would be a post on my favorite makeup picks from Bobbi Brown (still my go-to) or my favorite coffee shops in LA. I also decided to run a short story contest one time, and to my surprise someone actually entered haha. But I didn’t stick with that blog for very long for a few reasons:

  • I expected to have readers and comments right away. I thought that by my blog being out there on the internet I would gain traffic fast. Nope, I was so wrong. Having these kinds of expectations didn’t help either, because I got discouraged pretty quickly and didn’t stick with it.
  • There was no focus to that blog! I was an Etsy shop blog + lifestyle blog + creative writing blog + whatever else popped into my head. I had no direction.
  • The research wasn’t there. I had no idea the work that went into having a blog and probably wasn’t 100% interested or committed. I had no idea what a brand was, that you needed good photography or to post regularly, and I opened the blog through wordpress.com, as in blogname.wordpress.com and I really thought I was set. There’s nothing wrong with starting a blog there, but I still didn’t do my research!

No Niche For Me…Sort Of

Fast forward to today and this blog fell into place faster than I thought it would. Reasons I held back for so long were because I honestly thought no one would want to read it, I didn’t know what to focus on because I felt interested in a variety of things, and I thought that the market was already so saturated with bloggers, how would I ever stand out?

How could I talk about all the things I felt passionate about without being all over the place like before? I didn’t want to corner myself into a small niche, especially one that I wasn’t 100% into. I knew that if I became a fashion blogger who linked to clothes all the time or started a blog that focused on writing or acting specifically, I would fall short of connecting to my audience due to burn out from writing or posting about one specific thing day in and day out that I wasn’t 100% passionate about. While many people are successful and benefit from being in a smaller niche, I knew that I didn’t want my blog to be too narrow or I would be setting myself up for failure. I would venture to say that having a creative living + lifestyle blog is in its own niche, but it’s one that works for me.

Like a Glass Slipper

One day while at a friend’s house, I was talking with her mom about life and what I currently had going on. Her response to me listing off a few different endeavors was, “Wow, you are constantly doing something creative. That’s awesome!” Almost like an epiphany, it hit me. In honor of staying true to myself, why not start a blog about all the creative things I’m always doing? A creative living blog. The bloggers I connect to the most are the ones that I can tell truly love the things they’re talking about. For me, that’s anything creative. I wanted to be able to share about ALL the creative things I’m passionate about, not just one aspect.

For so long, I held back because I thought that being passionate in multiple things meant that I was committed to none of them. To a certain extent, I think that’s true. I don’t think you can be a pro golfer at the same time as trying to become an astronaut. And the only reason I don’t think that’s possible is because there’s not enough time in the day. If there was, then power to you!  However, I think it should be celebrated when people are creative and passionate about a handful of things.

Thus, Constant Creative was born. The second that name entered my brain it was as if the glass slipper fit and it felt so good! I know that I’ll be my most authentic self if I show my audience that I’m passionate about different things and I love to be creative. The best part is that creativity really expands so wide and means so many different things! For me, creative living extends all the way from art to business to creating a life you love.

I wanted not only to share about the creative things I have going on in my own life, but creative things I’m learning more and more about every day. I wanted my blog to talk about starting your own creative business and being a cheerleader for any woman that’s thinking about starting a side hustle, or trying a new art, or taking a leap to make something she’s always wanted to create. I discover creative inspiration from new things every day. Some surprise me, like how it really feels creative to bake a new dessert or to put together an outfit or travel to a new place. Other times, I seek to know more about living a creative life and stumble upon the most interesting answers, people, and ideas. I’m so excited to share it ALL with you here.

The Journey Ahead

I have so much to learn on this blogging journey but I couldn’t be happier about it! What’s exciting to me is all the doors that blogging opens; all the people, places, collaborations and new perspectives I wouldn’t get to see otherwise.  If you’re joining me on this journey, make sure to stop by and say hi! Scroll down and leave a comment, I’d love to know about who you are, what you do, where you’re from and where you’re going!

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