Ego is the Great Killer of Creativity: Comparison Kills
Comparison kills. This is a message has been popping up a lot lately in my life and I’ve been having great conversations about this. It’s so easy to compare ourselves, our career, our relationships, our successes, and our life to those we see on social media. But the more we compare and dwell on what we don’t have or aren’t accomplishing in this moment, the less we’re dedicating our time and energy on creating, on being inspired, and on allowing opportunities into our own lives.
Whatever industry you’re in, I know we’ve all gone through that similar feeling: you hop onto Instagram, scroll through Insta stories, and there it is. Someone talking about the new project they just secured, the new role they booked, the new country they’re traveling to next week, or all the amazing things that are happening to them because they worked so hard for it and it’s finally paying off. And that’s great! That’s awesome (truly) but then we start to get down on ourselves because, hey, we’re working really hard too, right? And we can’t help but think, “But why not me?”
It’s SO hard not to compare and start feeling like we’re not good enough when we’re working day in and day out towards our dreams. But the fact is that we are all on our own journey and on our own path. No two people got to the same destination by taking the same path. I’m a firm believer that hard work and luck go hand in hand. And maybe that luck is created by someone greater than us, but if we work really really hard and have that laser focus about what we want out of this life, what we want to accomplish, and the legacy we want to leave people with, I know that “luck” will be delivered to us. Sometimes people just get that earlier than we do and that’s okay. Because if we don’t give up, we’re going to get there too. One day you’re going to meet that right person at the right moment or have that job offer just land in your lap when you need it most or get that part you could feel was made for you.
As my acting teacher says: Ego is the great killer of creativity. What’s yours in yours and what’s mine is mine. I love that because it means we can genuinely celebrate other people’s journey and successes, knowing that we’re exactly where we’re meant to be.